Equality. What comes to mind when you hear that word? Perhaps you first think of gender. Or marriage. Or race.
Does the word “fair” come to your mind? Some folks define equality along the lines of everything “being fair.” But, really, is that possible? And is that even the goal?
“What’s equal is not always fair, and what’s fair is not always equal.”
When we make the mistake of thinking that fairness and equality are the same thing, we ask questions like these:
Why isn’t there a straight pride parade? That’s not fair.When is white history month? That’s not fair.
My gut instinct is to post this as a response:…but, I can’t really post that on the interwebs if my goal is communication and dialogue. (However, maybe I’ll try this one out on my kids next time someone argues about who got more mac and cheese in their bowl.)
What I can say are some of the things I have said to the people that desire “fairness” for straight and white Americans. We don’t need straight pride parades because straight folks aren’t beaten up and killed for being straight. We don’t need white history month because most of the history that was taught for decades in American school was white history, and mostly white male history at that.
We must know and come to grips with the fact that it is easier in this country to be straight than it is to be gay. Is it easier to be gay in this country than in others where gay folks are openly persecuted? Yes. But, the reality… [Read more…] about Equality Isn’t Fair